I’ve been thinking a lot this week about a quote I first discovered on her blog: “No man can walk out on his own story.” So true. So interesting to ponder. We’ve got to stick with it; we’ve got to endure no matter what. We can’t abandon our story once we get bored with it, and we can’t leave when we lose control. We are forced to stick with it no matter what. And yet, despite the fact that we can’t walk out on our story, and despite the fact that we can’t entirely control it, we can use it to impact the stories of those around us. For better or for worse we’re stuck with ourselves, and we get to choose which one it will be: for better or for worse.
Our lives are started like a story prompt: she was born to so and so parents in such and such a place, and then she inevitably grew up, and… And what? What do other people think of me? What impact will my life leave? Will I choose to use the boring times to grow spiritually? Will I become complacent? Everyone has a future, but no one knows for certain what that future holds. I find it funny when people want to know what I’ve planned for the future. Planning is futile- it will be changed. Me? I’ll just figure it out as I go along.
Sometimes it’s easy to envy people who have their futures made. Those who have never pondered this not being able to walk out on their story. But then I remember that they are in for disappointment. No one can write their future until it comes, and just like all good stories no character is entirely certain what will happen next. Surprises happen in stories. There are things to be overcome. The Author knows what will come next, and he knows what we will do about it, and still somehow he lets us choose. It’s an advantage of being outside of time I suppose: knowing, and controlling.
No one can walk out on his own story, but we can choose what to do with it. We can choose our reactions, and we can choose our friends. We can live to give or to get. We can make our story worthwhile or not. There’s a lot of power in our hands, in our choices; power can be wielded for good or bad. In our mortal stories we cannot rewrite, so remember you only have one story, use it wisely. Give it to the one who controls the stories. Surrender, keep living, and don’t look back.